By Carrie K.
I have a mixed review about the We-Vibe, a cute looking toy with some interesting possibilities. The name comes from the fact that it is a couples toy, designed to be inserted vaginally and kept there during penetration with a partner. My review is mixed because I was able to find some ways that I enjoy using this toy personally, and some of the shape and technologies make it a good option from a mobility-disabled standpoint, but I wasn’t interested in using in the way that it was designed, and I discovered some unsettling information about the technology.
A few particulars before I go further:
-5 different modes/vibration patterns
-Silicone & safe to use with water based lube
-Rechargeable through a USB port and very futuristic-sexy charging dock (pictured.)
The shapely We-vibe caught my eye initially as a good grip-free toy option. The U-shape design allows it slip over my 4 fingers and stay there. (See photo.)
As a personal/hand vibrator, it’s a good supplement to my hand and stronger than most of the over the finger vibes that I have tried. It also has a significantly bigger surface area than other finger & bullet-type vibes. It’s bulbous.
This toy is a nice warm-up, it’s gentle until you apply a moderate amount of pressure. As for which mode, I like the pure vibration and the 2 wavy ones, the pulsing settings alway feels too jerky. I also like it best with lube, which is kinda always true but especially with this toy since the surfaces of it are not completely smooth. It’s nice for when i’m feeling sore or sensitive but I still want a toy, or if I’m generally not looking to get too rowdy.
From an accessibility standpoint I am also able to use the remote control to change the settings, even with the toy on my hand. The only on/off button is on the actual vibe, though. I definitely think this is a good option for somebody with limited or no grip who is looking for something small but with a little power.
Another way I found to enjoy this toy was by wearing it around for several hours. I don’t do this with it turned on, just inserted and snuggly in place. It’s a nice, cupping type of feeling. I have to say I don’t think that this would be an option for somebody who is not a wheelchair user. I think it would slip out or slip elsewhere, but it was perfect for me. It wasn’t uncomfortable at all, and there were points throughout the day where I forgot it was there for a moment, but bumps in the sidewalk and riding on the bus gave me nice reminders. Four hours should probably be my limit for this. I was a little raw and sore afterwards, but I would be lying if I said I wasn’t into that, too.
My favorite way to use this so far is to have it inside me during other types of play & sex. The whole U-shaped thing vibrates – internally with a flat piece meant to reach the G spot & externally with the thicker side resting on the clit. It definitely didn’t reach my G spot but it still feels good in there. And I like how it sort of nestles between my lips. It is super sexy to be giving head or being otherwise oral while at the same time getting to enjoy some not-too-distracting vibrations on myself. Or to have it inside while my partner plays with other parts of my body. It stays inside me pretty comfortably, and makes everything else more exciting.
As for the We part, the toy is inserted as above, and the fatter, external/clit part would then be in a spot to rub against and vibrate between you and your partners genitals, while the internal part could be felt and shared internally. This instinctually didn’t appeal to me, and I was further validated after reading some reviews and having conversations with people who found it to be uncomfortable and intrusive used this way.
This toy also has an app that you can sync it with, where the settings and power are controlled through your phone. The purpose of this feature is for your partner to control vibes on you, from the same room or from a completely different state – hello long distance! Reading about it, I learned that the company was recently entangled in a class-action lawsuit because users were upset that the company was collecting some of the data about how often and on which settings people were using the vibrator. This rubbed me the wrong way at first, but after more reading I learned that the company wasn’t actually keeping or tracking any personal information from folks, and mostly using the data to improve the product. So I’m not mad.
I’d say, if this toy seems interesting to you, definitely try it. Cute, solid, and maybe awkward, but there are possibilities.
Thanks for your review Carrie!
A note about the model reviewed here: The We-Vibe 4 Plus has since been discontinued but has been replaced by the Sync which shares many of the same features and has the added ability to be adjusted.
And about the lawsuit.. this a great piece about it from heyepiphora.com