We get a lot of questions about how to creatively maintain amazing and fulfilling sex lives while managing medical problems or disabilities, so I am always keeping my eyes open for writing on the topic. I just came across Kendra Holliday‘s interview with Minx Grrl, who has TMJ, and thought it was so thoughtful that I had to share it with you. I love the way she explains how although it affects what she can and cannot do, she does not allow it to get in the way:
“what it comes down to is that there is no way I am going to let this TMJ hinder my sex or kink life. I avoid what causes me unwanted pain and just enjoy the rest of what won’t cause me that unwanted pain.”
There are so many amazing ways we can play, its silly to get hung up on the things we cannot or do not like to do. I also love the way Minx Grrl describes the way she gives blowjobs in a way that does not hurt her jaw:
“So if I use both hands to give a hand job and do an occasional suck on the head or deep throat as a sexy extra treat, I can manage to give a handjob with a bj cherry on top.”
I love this advice for everyone regardless of (dis)ability. So often people are under the impression that a blowjob means constant vigorous hands-free head bobbing. Get those hands in there, and maybe a toy, and use your mouth and tongue in a variety of ways (this goes for going down on vulvas too!) Thank you Kendra and Minx!
